When to See a Psychologist
Grieving on your own is normal, but sometimes you need professional support. It's important to recognize that in time.
Warning signs
If, after a long time, your state hasn't changed, you can't work or live, you lose sleep and appetite for a long stretch, that's a reason to see a specialist.
Special cases
Thoughts of harming yourself, complete numbness, or the opposite, an inability to stop the anxiety, call for help as soon as possible.
It's care, not weakness
Seeing a psychologist is the same as going to a doctor with pain. Asking for help is a sign of strength and of caring for yourself.
Where to turn
Help comes in many forms: free helplines, support groups for the bereaved, private and public psychologists. You can start with an anonymous call if seeing a specialist still feels too hard. The main thing is not to be alone with the heaviest part.
- A prolonged, unchanging state is a signal.
- Thoughts of self-harm mean help urgently.
- Asking for help is strength.
- A helpline, a group, a psychologist.
Frequently asked questions
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